September192014
“It does not matter if a boundary makes sense to you. It does not matter if it seems inconsequential to you. Boundaries are the prerogative of the person who sets them. You do not know that person’s story, and they are not obligated to justify their boundaries to you. That touch that seems insignificant to you may be uncomfortably intimate for someone else. That interaction that is fine with others may trigger someone’s PTSD. You do not know more about someone than they know about themselves. Trust that they know what they are doing when they set a boundary with you, even if you do not understand why.

When someone sets a boundary with you they are saying “no.” No means no. Do not push people on their boundaries or ask for explanations that are not readily given. Doing these things indicates that you do not respect their boundaries. For many people, saying “no” once, setting a boundary, is difficult enough. Do not put them in a position where they must repeatedly do so. No means no the first time. Pushing them on it suggests a hope that you can wear them down, which is problematic at best and predatory at worst. No means no.” Ally Smells: Boundaries | Geek Feminism Blog (via brutereason)

(via kidleykindly)

12PM

imperfectlyxo:

Put yourself and your recovery first.

Unfollow triggering blogs. Follow inspiration and recovery blogs.

Give yourself positive reminders everyday.

Make a list of things which help you and refer to it when needed.

Accept relapses will happen, but it’s part of recovery. Learn from them.

Let yourself be helped by others.

Don’t ever give up. It will be hard, but it will be worth it. 

(via kidleykindly)

September142014
clementinemorrigan:

How to support survivors: -believe what they are telling you -ask what kind of support would be helpful -offer whatever kind of support you are able to give -back them if they are seeking accountability from their abuser
What not to do: -don’t ask for details about what happened -don’t play ‘devils advocate’ -don’t pretend as if they never mentioned it and continue to treat the abuser as if nothing has changed
How to support abusers: -show them that you think abuse is not acceptable -encourage them to seek help -let them know that the survivors needs must be prioritized
What not to do: -don’t enable them by acting as if nothing has happened -don’t prioritize their needs over the survivors -don’t support them in making spaces inaccessible for the survivor

clementinemorrigan:

How to support survivors: -believe what they are telling you -ask what kind of support would be helpful -offer whatever kind of support you are able to give -back them if they are seeking accountability from their abuser

What not to do: -don’t ask for details about what happened -don’t play ‘devils advocate’ -don’t pretend as if they never mentioned it and continue to treat the abuser as if nothing has changed

How to support abusers: -show them that you think abuse is not acceptable -encourage them to seek help -let them know that the survivors needs must be prioritized

What not to do: -don’t enable them by acting as if nothing has happened -don’t prioritize their needs over the survivors -don’t support them in making spaces inaccessible for the survivor

(via femme-crimes)

September132014
“Bear in mind, people with eating disorders tend to be both competitive and intelligent. We are incredibly perfectionistic. We often excel in school, athletics, artistic pursuits. We also tend to quit without warning. Refuse to go to school, drop out, quit jobs, leave lovers, move, lose all our money. We get sick of being impressive. Rather, we tire of having to seem impressive. As a rule, most of us never really believed we were any good in the first place.” Wasted (via princessofgenovia)

(via the-answer-is-within-me)

11AM
September112014
sartorialbliss:

Denise Bidot opening the Chromat Spring 2015 show at NYFW!

sartorialbliss:

Denise Bidot opening the Chromat Spring 2015 show at NYFW!

(Source: ELLE, via wildbelles)

September92014
10AM
girldwarf:

fieldbears:

britneyjustin:


britsanity:






Witnesses say they asked Britney why she shaved her head and her response was, “I’m tired of plugging things into it. I’m tired of people touching me.”



i can never not reblog this



T-Pain: “That was the most beautiful thing in the world. Do you know why she was shaving her head? Because it was so important to other people. She is like, “Listen. Don’t touch my hair anymore. Stop touching my hair.” People were like, “We’ve got to make your hair before you go outside. You can’t leave.” She went … “Now I don’t have hair. What you going to do?”


The older I get the more her breakdown seems less ‘unbalanced’ and more ‘completely understandable’

I sincerely regret making fun of her and laughing about this. I wish we had all been like, “Wow, it’s disgusting that she’s been pushed to the breaking point. It’s disgusting that people treated her body like public property.”

girldwarf:

fieldbears:

britneyjustin:

britsanity:

Witnesses say they asked Britney why she shaved her head and her response was, “I’m tired of plugging things into it. I’m tired of people touching me.”

i can never not reblog this

T-Pain: “That was the most beautiful thing in the world. Do you know why she was shaving her head? Because it was so important to other people. She is like, “Listen. Don’t touch my hair anymore. Stop touching my hair.” People were like, “We’ve got to make your hair before you go outside. You can’t leave.” She went … “Now I don’t have hair. What you going to do?”

The older I get the more her breakdown seems less ‘unbalanced’ and more ‘completely understandable’

I sincerely regret making fun of her and laughing about this. I wish we had all been like, “Wow, it’s disgusting that she’s been pushed to the breaking point. It’s disgusting that people treated her body like public property.”

(via narabean)

September62014
September52014

I thought forgetting would set me free, but I realize I denied myself the healing process of grieving what I’d lost, what had been taken from me, and everything in between my pain and my rage.

But now I begin this journey of restoration. I will no longer try to forget, I will instead try to make peace with my past. I will, I will try, day by day I will try to allow myself to grieve so that I can give myself the chance to finally start to heal.

Dele Olanubi (via bealightinthedark)

(via warrioryogini)

9PM
“1) Learn to put on your bracelets and zip up your dresses by yourself. There will be times when you will be alone.
2) Get on a long plane ride. Look out the window. Understand the immensity of our world. Understand your insignificance. Understand your absolute importance.
3) Press the send button. If you don’t say it now, you never will.
4) Do not sneer at happiness or roll your eyes at sadness. Be aware that apathy is not healthy.
5) You are more than the amount of people who want to have sex with you.
6) That pit in your stomach when he doesn’t text you back, it shouldn’t be there. No one should be able to control you like that.
7) Shopping is cathartic. Buy the shoes and deal with one-ply toilet paper for a while.
8) It will get better, but it will never be perfect. Learn to live through the small moments of happiness. When they disappear, remember they will resurface.
9) I promise that cookie will not change anything (except that it will make you smile).
10) Please, please, take care of yourself. You are everything to somebody. You are everything to your self. That alone is enough.” things to remember, -n.m. (via thegirlwithfernweh)

(via jsmn)

2PM

Reblog if it got better

polyturtles:

I always tell my friends who are struggling that it really does get better, but I always feel like they don’t believe me. I want to send a message. Please reblog this if you’ve been in a tough spot, you’ve gotten through it and things are better now.

(via the-answer-is-within-me)

2AM

FRIENDLY REMINDER: ur tummy is cute as HECK and u should eliminate anyone that tells u otherwise

(Source: magneito, via fuckyeahbodypositivity)

September12014
“COMPLIMENTS THAT AREN’T ABOUT PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

1) You’re empowering.
2) I like your voice.
3) You’re strong.
4) I think your ideas/beliefs matter.
5) I’m so happy you exist.
6) More people should be listening to what you have to say.
7) You’re a very warm hearted person.
8) It’s nice seeing such kindness.
9) You’re very down to earth.
10) You have a beautiful soul.
11) You inspire me to become a better person.
12) Our conversations bring me a lot of joy.
13) It’s good to see someone care so much.
14) You’re so understanding.
15) You matter a lot to me.
16) You’re important even if you don’t think so.
17) You’re intelligent.
18) Your passion is contagious.
19) Your confidence is refreshing.
20) You restore my faith in humanity.
21) You’re great at being creative.
22) You’re so talented at ____.
23) I don’t get tired of you the way I get tired of other people.
24) You have great taste in ___.
25) I’m happy I stayed alive long enough to meet you.
26) I wish more people were like you.
27) You’re so good at loving people.” 3:29 p.m. feel free to add to this!  (via expresswithsilence)

(Source: angryasianfeminist, via kierxa)

August272014
“Body confidence and self love are a feeling, not a size” Missi | Curvecreation (via curvecreation)

(via the-answer-is-within-me)

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