July182014
stophatingyourbody:

I grew up with people making excuses for my weight. My nan would call it ‘puppy fat’ and my mum would inform me that ‘it wouldn’t be fair’ if I was funny, smart, AND skinny. I wasn’t any better. I made excuses for myself too, and would tell myself every year that next year would be different. It wasn’t. I didn’t make any changes and I never learned to love who I was because I was waiting to transform from the chubby caterpillar into a beautiful, sleek, sophisticated looking butterfly. I never dreamed that all I was waiting for was acceptance from myself.
I’ve had bad self-esteem for years and it’s only since University that it’s gotten better. I’ve learned that people don’t really care about size, and I found it sad that they could accept me while I couldn’t. My housemates taught me that I’m not too big to be excluded, and I’ve learned to stop being apologetic about my weight. I worked out what size clothes I should be wearing and I’ve stopped crying over the numbers on the tags. I don’t wish I was anything but me. I’m not ugly because I’m fat. I’m beautiful with or without the extra digits on the scale. I’ve let happy, out-going, accepting people into my life and it’s made everything better. I know that it’s the steps I’ve taken to know myself, to accept myself, that I can have healthy relationships with others.
I’m happy because I’m finally coming to peace with who I am, and I’m happy because this blog exists.
If you ever need a friend, or just an ear, you can find me at: ibexie.tumblr.com
BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

stophatingyourbody:

I grew up with people making excuses for my weight. My nan would call it ‘puppy fat’ and my mum would inform me that ‘it wouldn’t be fair’ if I was funny, smart, AND skinny. I wasn’t any better. I made excuses for myself too, and would tell myself every year that next year would be different. It wasn’t. I didn’t make any changes and I never learned to love who I was because I was waiting to transform from the chubby caterpillar into a beautiful, sleek, sophisticated looking butterfly. I never dreamed that all I was waiting for was acceptance from myself.

I’ve had bad self-esteem for years and it’s only since University that it’s gotten better. I’ve learned that people don’t really care about size, and I found it sad that they could accept me while I couldn’t. My housemates taught me that I’m not too big to be excluded, and I’ve learned to stop being apologetic about my weight. I worked out what size clothes I should be wearing and I’ve stopped crying over the numbers on the tags. I don’t wish I was anything but me. I’m not ugly because I’m fat. I’m beautiful with or without the extra digits on the scale. I’ve let happy, out-going, accepting people into my life and it’s made everything better. I know that it’s the steps I’ve taken to know myself, to accept myself, that I can have healthy relationships with others.

I’m happy because I’m finally coming to peace with who I am, and I’m happy because this blog exists.

If you ever need a friend, or just an ear, you can find me at: ibexie.tumblr.com

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

5AM
July162014
“Your body is the piece of the Universe you’ve been given.” Geneen Roth (via ghosts)

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“When you first start trying to be vulnerable , people are going to freak out. And there will be a pushback. You will scare some people. But vulnerability is a great filter. If people can’t accept your vulnerability, they don’t deserve your trust.” Dr. Brene Brown (via dauntlessdive)

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10AM
July142014
“Learn to say ‘no’ without explaining yourself.”

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“It is just a body. The more you can be neutral about a body, the better. Bodies change, and many times they change from things out of your control. Bodies do not, and never will, have anything to do with your value.” Bevin Branlandingham 

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recoverfromedmemes:

When ED tells me not to eat something ‘cause it’s “unhealthy” or a “bad food”

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July92014

squ33kasaurus said: How would you describe Self Love? I have always struggled with confidence issues and self esteem so its always been a challenge to understand how exactly to love oneself. Internal dialogue? Nourishment? Material? Comfort?

lazyyogi:

What if confidence weren’t an issue? What if self-esteem weren’t a problem? 

Then there is Love. Then there is the Self. It isn’t self-love in the sense of love being given to yourself. It is self love in the revelation that the Self is love and that Love is the Self. 

Because you feel feel crummy about yourself, you believe that you need higher self-esteem. Because you feel uncertain and insecure, you think you need confidence. Then you interpret this as a lack of self-love that needs to be remedied. 

But if you didn’t feel crummy about yourself and if you didn’t feel insecure, then there would be no problem. So instead of battling low self-esteem and uncertainty with high self-esteem and confidence, why not get to the root of the problem? Objectified self-identity. 

Firstly, let’s define a subject-object relationship. I watch a dog. I am the subject, the dog is the object. Pretty straightforward, right?

Now let’s apply this to low self-esteem. You feel bad about yourself. Who is the subject and who is the object? Wait a moment, now you feel good about yourself. Who is the subject and who is the object? What is changing?

What is the thing about which you are feeling good or bad? Your mind will say “myself.” However, it is not actually yourself, is it? You are not looking at yourself the way I was looking at the dog. So what is it you are looking at when you feel good or bad about yourself? An objectified self-identity. 

An objectified self-identity is comprised of thoughts, opinions, perspectives, judgments, likes, dislikes, “good” qualities, “bad” qualities, and so on. These are a jumble of things which you collect together and regard as who you are or a reflection of who you are. 

Most people live their lives as a slave to their self-image. They want to avoid feeling bad about their self-image and achieve feeling good about their self-image. That’s when you have people avoiding looking at their confusion within and instead they focus on seeking happiness through the limits of that self-image. 

When someone talks about loving themself, they are talking about loving their self-image. Obviously that is better than hating your self-image. But does it solve the problem? Just because we cover up the symptoms doesn’t mean we have cured the disease. The suffering that comes from having a self-image is unavoidable so long as you identify knowingly or unknowingly with a self-image. 

In modern society, it is very common for love to be filtered through our self-images. That is called conditional love. You love for some reason, because something has been deemed lovable by you. And so that is why self-love seems like such a struggle for you. You are waiting to find something worthy of love about your self-image. But how can you love your captor?

Unconditional love is only possible when you are no longer using a self-image and subject-object relationships as a means by which to experience and give love. Unconditional love is just how it sounds: love without conditions. 

Love without conditions is love without limits. The only things that limit us are the mistaken identifications we allow to continue unquestioned. To the degree that you acknowledge and release the ways in which you mistakenly identify with impermanent and unreal phenomena, the love radiating within you becomes more obvious and clear to you. 

All of this means paying attention. Keeping as much attention within yourself as you have going outward throughout the day. Noticing the way you react, expect, desire, fear, reject, and so on. Not judging, interpreting, or analyzing. Just noticing. 

A book on all of this that I found very informative and helpful is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Also read some of the poetry by saints such as Rumi, Hafiz, and Ramprasad Sen. They taught me much about the real dimension of love beyond the romance and the fuzzy feelings we typically assume it to be. 

Namaste sis :) Much love. May you be blessed by your own Heart. 

10PM
“Listen to the wisdom of pain and to where it is drawing your attention. If you meet a challenge with resourcefulness, courage, and sincerity, you will set into motion a trajectory of healing that you forgot possible.” The Lazy Yogi (via lazyyogi)

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